The Dating-Like Ritual of Finding #MomFriends

Finding #MomFriends is so hard! My sister has to be my #MomFriend because we’re related and our mother would yell at her if she wasn’t.

But finding your tribe of Momma friends isn’t easy. I kinda think it’s like dating and we’re all on a Tinder playground swiping left and right as our kids play.

Henry is almost two and a half. He wants to play with other kids, and I want him to play with other kids so I can take a break from making truck noises with my mouth.

Here’s how you find new #MomFriends. You scope out the playground to see what mom parents like you do.

Is the mom involved? Or too involved? Or is she sitting on the park bench pretending she doesn’t see her kid acting like a total a-hole and not doing anything about it?

Once you find a mom, you exchange names and, if you’re anything like me, you immediately forget her name and only remember her kid’s name.

You then go through THE LIST. The list includes things like…how old is your kid, is he a good sleeper, a good eater, etc…

I then share things to see if this mom is my kind of lady.

Things like…my Henry has a steady diet of frozen Trader Joe’s meatballs. There’s a certain subset of women who won’t be your #MomFriend if you’re child doesn’t eat all organic.

Then I’ll share that we did the cry-it-out method to get Henry to sleep. Certain moms think that cry-it-out is akin to abuse and that the child is forever scarred by it. Henry doesn’t remember it and he sleeps LIKE A CHAMP.

At this point in the over-sharing, I usually know if this mom and I have the same vibe.


When it’s GOOD ENOUGH!

Trying to be perfect is exhausting and, honestly, if you achieved perfection…you would be annoying and not someone I’d want to hang out with. HA!

My current motto is “That’s GOOD ENOUGH!”

What I mean by that is some days I’m feeling great. I’m well rested, Henry is a happy little peanut and I’m able to take him to the library, playground, water park and do the laundry with ease.

But other days…and there are many…I am just exhausted!

On those days, I operate from the “GOOD ENOUGH!” philosophy.

If I get home from work and I’m tired and can’t get off the couch, Henry and I will watch kids shows for 2 hours and it’s fine.

If Henry is fussy and I can’t soothe him and I have to put his binky in while we’re out and about…I just do it and it’s fine.

If Henry eats frozen Trader Joe’s meatballs 2 times a week because I don’t have fresh food for him…it’s fine and he is perfect.

I think we all need to remember is that one instance of “not being perfect” will not determine the total outcome of us or our children.

We become fully realized human beings who are molded from MANY moments…and if the majority of them are good, then we are just FINE.

I’ll end this blog post here because it’s GOOD ENOUGH!

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